tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9008769272778830922.post749544876892940151..comments2023-08-06T09:35:23.409-06:00Comments on Charity Angel: When You Question The Value of a ManAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12163775814918943495noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9008769272778830922.post-35950435441932363412014-03-13T17:12:25.494-06:002014-03-13T17:12:25.494-06:00Sharing your history is empowering and therapeutic...Sharing your history is empowering and therapeutic. I am so proud that you are in a place where you can do that. I know it will help others struggling with the same things you have gone through. Thank you for sharing.Wyldfire76https://www.blogger.com/profile/03333937281165955757noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9008769272778830922.post-35626160641075899182014-03-13T17:11:20.130-06:002014-03-13T17:11:20.130-06:00How very powerful for you to give voice to your hi...How very powerful for you to give voice to your history. I am sure this was very hard but also very therapeutic. I hope that it helps others out there struggling with the same.Wyldfire76https://www.blogger.com/profile/03333937281165955757noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9008769272778830922.post-54518431175317005342014-03-13T16:56:11.384-06:002014-03-13T16:56:11.384-06:00I agree with your point of view on our childhood. ...I agree with your point of view on our childhood. It would be impossible to explain in a thousand books to other people. With solace, I have come to realize that our Paternal Father cannot truly love or connect with us, because he is still too focused on himself. Literally, saving the child support, stealing your car and your savings, getting free baby-sitting, etc... are all indicative of how he uses people as pawns to support his personal feelings of accomplishment. Once I realized that he is so broken himself, that he is literally incapable of truly being there... then being an "outsider" is not painful anymore, it is just a reality. Relationships only exist where there is a real effort to connect. Simply, he never grew up into the adult stage of giving of himself. He still expects everyone to come to him, or to do things for him. His communication always increases just before his birthday, or christmas... because he want to be "treasured". Him him him; that is what life is about. Where we stand as as siblings is still a strong bond. Especially the three of us who came from him, because we have lived all the stages together. Then our sister from the second marriage is strong too... we saw her prevail through the many trials in her life. And the youngest three, we are bonded to them, stronger than they are to us, because they do not really know what we know... no one can without living it. We know that in the end, we can always rely on each other. We can all grow in our relationships by putting ourselves out there and striving to create one. With our father, I finally realized that I did not need to struggle to make him feel happy anymore. And that has been a great release. He creates his own burdens... so let him carry the load he places upon himself. Now I can better leave the pain behind, forgive him for his weakness', but call an orange and orange... and not think it will turn into an apple someday. Oddly, regardless of the extreme circumstances we lived through, I think it has made us stronger people. I feel I am a better father and husband by being able to analyze more of what NOT to do. Yes, I do feel that having had better direction of what TO do would have been of great benefit... especially in relationships. But we will continue to do the best we can, and look back and be able to say, we did a great job with the tools that we had.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15171528514600412148noreply@blogger.com